Does One Identify and Treat False Accusations of Sexual Abuse in
Parental Alienation Situations?
Ludwig.F. Lowenstein Ph.D
Southern England Psychological Services
It is important to identify true versus false sex abuse allegations
in the case of parental alienation cases. The paper which follows
illustrates how false allegations may be used and identified by
psychological investigation. An illustration of this is presented
showing how sex abuse allegations are used and how they can be refuted.
Sometimes this is done by noting the language or phrases used by
the child that are essentially borrowed scenarios from the alienator.
There will often be inconsistencies in a child’s reporting.
With skill and determination the psychologist can reverse parental
alienation unless the child is returned to the poisoning influence
of the programmer.
How Does One Identify and Treat False Accusations of Sexual Abuse
in Parental Alienation Situations?
What follows is part of a book on the subject of the psychological
aspects of parental alienation. It will discuss:
How and why parental alienation processes lead to sexual abuse
Getting at the truth.
What can be done to reverse false accusations of sexual abuse
in parental alienation situations.
1. How and why do sexual abuse accusations occur in the process
of parental alienation
It is vital to be certain in the first instance that no sexual
abuse has occurred. If it has occurred parental alienation processes
and its identification and treatment are very different than that
which follows now. Hence it is vital that before seeking to break
the deadlock of a child and alienator making such allegations against
an alienated parent, that sexual abuse has not occurred. Parental
alienation is usually preceded by an acrimonious relationship and
the targeted member, usually the father, having left the home. It
is most important to protect children from the trauma resulting
from sexual abuse and this cannot be stressed too greatly. It is
equally important however, that we protect children from an emotionally
abusing adult programming them against a parent.
As is almost always the case false sexual abuse allegations originate
from the alienator and are supported by the supposed victim and
possibly other members of the family. Sometimes such abuse has been:
Exaggerated, such as a the result of an inadvertent or innocent
touch of a genital area.
With no such basis whatsoever for the allegations having occurred.
The child supports the alienator, mainly the mother, because the
Has identified with the parent and in so doing also the attitudes
and allegations made against the alienated parent.
Some of the signs that a child is lying or exaggerating may
be noted as due to the brain washing and the programme of alienation
the child has received.
A number of ways to identify whether the child is telling the
truth or not will be gone into the next section in connection with
The phrases and words used by, especially a very young child,
which have been borrowed from the indoctrinator: “He sexually
abused me…..He seduced me……He sodomised me……He
molested me…..He had penile intercourse etc, etc.”
“He makes me watch pornographic films.” Sometimes
such statements are known to be suspect such as when the father
does not even have a video player.
Sometimes the child will inadvertently reveal that the very
source of the allegations made come from the mother. “I
don’t feel safe with my father……He could hit
me…..Mummy told me”.
Frequently, the alienator will reveal a precise “litany”
on what has allegedly occurred, this being repeated word for
word by the child. Often the child does not understand the meaning
of the words used such as the father being “controlling”,
“authoritarian”, “permissive” and other
statements already noted in No. 1. He/she merely “parrots”
what is heard from the alienator, such as: “My father
did not cuddle me until I was 2 years old.” One could
well ask how the child could know this unless he/she had been
told by someone, possibly the mother.
Some children will write directly to the Court and Judges
with sexual abuse complaints instigated by the alienator who
addresses the very envelopes and posts the letter. Frequently
the mother actively writes letters and then attributes them
to the child. They are dictated by the mother as to what the
child should say, such as father being: “a paedophile…..not
sufficiently protective……being too much of a disciplinarian…….or
lacking in providing discipline.”
The children asked to define the terms used are likely not
to be able to do so. They are merely repeating what they have
heard from the alienator. Sometimes they will even admit that
the alienator used such words to them about their father/mother
who is being vilified.
While these signs do not directly discount the possibility that
some form of sex abuse has occurred, they demonstrate the general
tendency which results when a child is programmed against an absent
parent in order to discredit him/her. It can also lead, in the case
of sexual abuse allegations to the prosecution of an innocent parent
and if found guilty the imprisonment of that parent. Court and Law
unfortunately do not always get it right. Such injustices can never
be rectified, even when the child later recants the accusations
2. How to get at the truth
It is the task of the psychologist to get at the truth as to whether
sexual abuse has occurred in the first instance. It must be understood
that sex abuse allegations are often a spin off of the parental
alienation process. This is not to say that parents do not commit
acts of sexual abuse against their children but one must be suspicious,
however, when such allegations are made once parents are separated,
when the separation is acrimonious, and when no such allegations
have ever been made while both parents lived together.
Should sexual abuse actually have taken place, as established via
an “independent investigator” then it is necessary:
To treat the child for its effects.
To treat the perpetrator within or outside the prison system.
To allow only supervised contact between the child and the
sex abuse offender at some point in time, usually after therapy
has been completed and been successful.
An attempt must be made to rehabilitate the family if at all
False allegations of sexual abuse frequently occur in cases of
parental alienation and for these there is often no foundation.
They are attributable to the implacable hostility of the alienator
towards the targeted parent. Here the alienator will use all and
any strategy to keep the other parent from having contact with the
child. This is done from hostility and instils in the child the
notion that the absent parent is of evil intent, dangerous or otherwise
unworthy of playing any role in their lives.
False accusations of sexual abuse are strewn with signs which
are easy to ignore. This occurs when one has already preconceived
notions that if a parent and child state that it has occurred it
must have happened. This is why it is so important that the investigator
be totally independent, impartial, skilled and dedicated in getting
at the truth of such dangerous allegations. These allegations include
The language used by the child when speaking of the abuse.
Inconsistencies in the stories of the child.
Borrowed scenarios from the alienator.
Elaboration of the abuse that does not make sense.
Individual interviews with the alienator, alienated parent
and the child, and also in various combinations. The objective
is to note both the consistencies and inconsistencies in the
It must be emphasised that interviewing and gathering information
concerning whether sexual abuse took place is both an art and a
science. Those who are likely to be sexual abusers usually have
from an early age shown signs or histories of abusing. They may
themselves have been sexually abused as children.
The author of this paper has written a book which contains a test
and interviewing procedure which is still being revised. It is important
never to depend on one or even several pieces of evidence before
making any decisions. Decisions must be based on past research in
the personality and history of sexual abusers, interviews with a
variety of individuals and using a variety of personality tests.
While sex abusers are devious and deniers, so are those who make
false allegations as a result of the parental alienation phenomenon.
Furthermore there are, as already mentioned, psychologists, psychiatrists,
social workers and organisations who consider a child’s statement
sacrosanct. They will then seek further evidence to corroborate
the fact that sexual abuse has occurred according to what the child
has said instead of impartially seeking for the truth. As has already
been made abundantly clear, children do not always tell the truth
. Here Gardner presents and actual clinical case of a young child
making false sex abuse allegations.
3. What can be done to reverse false accusations of sexual abuse?
There are a number of ways in which children can be made to tell
the truth and to reverse their very dangerous allegations that sexual
abuse has been practised upon them due to the alienation of a hostile
Promoting shame and guilt felt towards the alienated parent
for having made false accusations of sexual abuse. Children
who are being alienated, or have been alienated are in a conflict
situation. Here the promotion of guilt plays an important part
as well as feelings of insecurity. Let me elaborate on this
view. Chilren who have been programmed by a parent against the
other non-resident parent fail to develop, what can only be
termed, a balanced sense of guilt. They will make accusations
even of having been sexually abused at the instigation of a
They develop by reason of programming a feeling of responsibility
of duty towards the parent with whom they currently reside,
usually the mother. The parent who is no longer there by reason
of an acrimonious separation, receives comparatively little
concern. The longer the separation, the less positive the child
feels towards the absent parent, often blaming that parent for
the absence. This is even when there have been in the past a
close loving relationship with that parent and that parent’s
family. This is because absent parents lose their capacity for
influencing events. This is not the case for the custodial parent
who has the capacity and often does use that capacity to influence
the thinking and emotions of a child towards the absent parent.
This is especially the case when the absent parent has developed
a new relationship. There is much jealousy here by the alienating
parent towards the new relationship. This feeling is passed
on to the child by the alienator.
There are many reasons why parents separate. It is usually because
all is not well with the relationship as experienced by one
or both parents. A good, healthy and otherwise positive relationship
results in both parents seeking to support the child. Both parents
and the child have a balanced memory of good time together.
Thereby parental alienation is prevented. Such parents do not
need the help of the psychologist. They are demonstrating their
love for the child and providing that child with what is in
his/her best interest, to feel loved by both parents.
It is the programmed child against a parent who needs to be
helped to view the situation realistically, that is, the one
parent is absent but still loves the child. The child should
continue to feel the same towards the absent parent and this
can only be done by encouragement by the potentially alienating
parent. Such children are fortunate as they will have the chance
for a good start in life and therefore a good future.
Only alienating by the programming parent can prevent such positive
results. When the alienation process occurs, the child is initially
in a conflict as to who should be rewarded for his/her continual
love and affection . This situation does not last long when
the ‘brain-washing’ is effective combined with the
absence of the targeted parent. Hence the conscience and loyalty
easily becomes one sided in the direction of the custodial and
programming parent. This is partly due to the need for security
by the child, the programming, and the absence of the targeted
parent having any influence on the child. One might well say
that in this situation “absence does not make the heart
grow fonder”. Instead the absence towards the vilified
parent leads in time to partial or eventual total rejection.
There appears to be, at least on the surface, no involvement of
the conscience in the child about the alienated parent. As already
mentioned, and it will continue to be mentioned, the alienator becomes
“all good” while the alienated parent is “totally
evil”. The child identifies therefore totally with the custodial
parent and their views relative to the vilified absent parent.
One might say that the child has destroyed, or put to sleep any
conscience in regard to the alienated parent, for the reasons already
mentioned of identifying with the alienator totally. There is therefore
no room for ambivalence of feelings. This term is constantly referred
to by Gardner (2001). Such parents inculcate a lack of empathy and
sympathy for the victim of parental alienation. As a psychologist
one is often asked by the court: “How will this affect the
child now and in the future?” Such experiences are likely
to influence children all their lives unless they can be deprogrammed
as quickly as possible. It will also influence the future adult
in the manner in which they conduct themselves with other people.
Empathy, conscience and morality are learned early in life by positive
contact with caring, loving and firm parents.
Because children have been alienated against a parent they could
well develop psychopathic personalities, demanding but never giving.
They will lie and cheat and take what they want when they want it
irrespective of the feelings of others. This is very much in the
way that the programmer has behaved towards the targeted parent
and children learn from this. Such individuals who programme children
against others never appear to give but always seek to take and
always provide the vilification of the absent parent. The child
having not contact with the absent parent is directly or subtly
discouraged from thinking for him/herself and for adopting ethical
and moral ways of living. An alienated parent will often fight for
years to have contact with a child. They fight for this in Court
at great expense. Courts however, do not always see or want to see
what the alienation process has done. Courts and the minions who
help to make decisions make several mistakes. They are nevertheless
understandable but legally and morally reprehensible:
They believe what the child says and wants, instead of looking
beneath the reasons for the child’s assertions of not
wishing contact with the targeted parent. They fail to see what
was done to promote these reasons.
Courts therefore often inevitably side with the custodial
parent as this is the easier way out of a tangled and complex
situation, instead of punishing those responsible for the alienation.
Such decisions do little to prevent the negative short and long-term
effects on the child, by depriving the child of contact with the
loving non-custodial parent and others. It does not even in the
end benefit the programming parent when the child grows up and often
understands what has been done to prevent another loving parent
being involved with his/her life, ht child often turns against the
The estranged parent after often years of attempts to seek a relationship
with the child finally gives up. The reason is that the courts have
not listened to the vilified parent or the true views of the child.
Such alienated parents then start, if they have not done so already,
to seek a new partner and further children. The result is that the
child has been deprived of the valuable relationship with the father
or mother. Such contact could have helped the child in future to
promote relationships with others and become socialised. It also
teaches the child, ultimately, that the courts are both unfair and
unjust but they are powerful. What legacy is that for the new generation!?
4. Clinical case illustration
What follows is based on an actual case considerably disguised
so as not to reveal the individuals who actually participated. The
case concerns a child who has made a sexual abuse and other allegation
against her father. The dialogue between the child and the psychologist,
as well as the mother and the psychologist, are both to identify
whether sexual abuse has occurred and also to seek to treat it by
deprogramming the child who has been alienated in this case against
the father over a long period of time. It should be made absolutely
clear that this is a clinical example not an actual case. It is
however, typical of many of the cases that this psychologist and
others have dealt with in the past and will continue to do so. It
will also be made clear the dangers that psychologists are facing
when attempting to get at the truth and to deal with that truth
following it having been revealed. The first part deals with the
interview with the alienating mother, the second then interview
with the child, and the third the interview with the psychologist,
the father and the child together.
Interview with the mother
As she enters the room it is with a bearing of authority.
- Psych: “Would you tell me again what
your 8 year old daughter told you about getting into bed with
Mother: “He touched her in an inappropriate
way between her legs.
- Psych: “Would you show me exactly what
your daughter said he did”.
Mother: (She demonstrated by running both
her hands along the side and then between her inner thighs
close to, but not actually touching the private parts)
- Psych: “Did he touch her private parts
at any time?”
Mother: “It looks that way to me……doesn’t
it to you?”
- Psych: “You demonstrated and you showed
that he was near but not actually at the exact area of her private
Mother: “You will have to ask my
daughter. She will show you exactly what he did do. Anyway
do you think it’s right for a grown up man to have
a little girl in bed with him, touching her the way he did?”
- Psych: “She is his daughter, Isn’t
she? Have you never been in bed with your daughter?”
Mother: “Of course I have. We are
both of the same sex. I was only giving her a cuddle. Anyway
he’s not living with us now. He’s with some
slut who already has three children.”
- Psych: “Why did your relationship break
Mother: “What has that got to do
with his molesting my daughter by asking her to come into
bed with him?”
- Psych: “I would still like to know
why you and your husband decided your relationship was over
Mother: “If you want to know. I
told him to go. He was an overbearing man and I told him
one day that the marriage was over.”
- Psych: “Was there any other reason,
remember you created a child between the two of you.”
Mother: “And that’s the only
good thing to come out of our relationship. It’s all
I ever wanted."
- Psych: “You wanted the child, but no
longer did you want your husband……..the man who
incidentally gave you that child.”
Mother: “I had enough of him and
his ways…….yes one day I just told him it was
- Psych: “When he came back home I believe
you had changed the lock of the front door.”
Mother: “Yes, I didn’t want
any more to do with him.”
- Psych: “I understand, but you did want
to have your daughter, but you didn’t want your husband
to have anything to do with your mutual daughter that you created
together, is that right?”
Mother: “It’s my daughter
and not I who stopped him seeing him anyway. You will have
to ask her why she doesn’t want to see him. She has
a mind of her own you know. I can’t do anything about
the way she feels.”
- Psych: “You have of course said you
tried to get her to visit her father and to be with him and
to answer telephone calls from him?”
Mother: “Of course, I said you should
see your father, and she refused. What do you expect me
to do, force her to see her father? I can’t do that,
nobody can do that. And anyway he shouldn’t have asked
her to go into bed with him. She told me everything. My
daughter and I are very close. You saw how she clings to
me in the waiting room. She didn’t want to go in to
see you, you know? But I insisted, I had to: why couldn’t
you have me in the room when you were talking to her? That’s
what she wanted. Remember you are a stranger to her.
- Psych: “You know very well that I need
to see her on her own, and I will be seeing her again later
to discuss the points you made about her father sexually abusing
her while in bed with her.”
Mother: “I don’t know whether
he was doing that, but that’s what my daughter told
me. You will have to ask her yourself. No-one should be
calling a little girl into bed with him to do with her what
he did. If that isn’t sexually abusing a child then
I don’t know what is. That’s why she doesn’t
want anything to do with him. She won’t even talk
to him on the telephone now.”
- Psych: “You and your daughter have
made a very strong allegation against her father. You realise
that if what you are insinuating is true, he could be prosecuted
and if found guilty he could he imprisoned. He could be in prison
for a very long time. It will also affect his career as a medical
doctor. He could easily be struck off by the British Medical
Association. He would therefore be unable to practise medicine.
This means that he would have no income and no financial support
for you and for your daughter. It would mean that you would
have to rely totally on your own job. Fortunately, you are in
a fairly powerful position, you are I believe a Director of
an IT firm which has over one thousand employees?
Mother: (Mother thinks deeply for some
time). “I hadn’t imagined how it would affect
him or us in the way you have described it. Well, I just
have to provide for everything and I would be willing to
do this just to get rid of him for good.
- Psych: “I suppose you don’t really
need your husband’s income to support your way of life.
You are the Director of your own firm and you are therefore
in a powerful position yourself.
Mother: “And I hope you realise
I did it all by myself. It is still not easy for a woman
to do what I did in a man’s world (here it is clear
her resentment against the ‘male’ is very powerful
as she considers the male to be in a more powerful position
compared with women).
- Psych: “Now that is about as far as
we can go and I now need to see your daughter”.
Interview with the child
The protagonists are the psychologist (psych) and the child (child).
- Psych: “I hear you are an intelligent
girl getting high marks in school. Is that right?”
Child: “I suppose so.” (Very
much on the defensive).
- Psych: “You know why you are here with
me, don’t you?”
Child: “It’s about my father……I
don’t want to see him. I don’t want to speak
to him. Nobody can make me.”
- Psych: “I would like to know what happened
to make you feel that way. I believe you were once very close
to your father.”
Child: “What makes you think that?
I was never close to him.”
- Psych: “He showed me some pictures
when you were with him and you seemed to be very much enjoying
yourself in his company.”
Child: “I was only pretending to
enjoy myself. I really hated being with him……and
that woman she is nothing but a slut.”
- Psych: “Well I think you looked very
happy in the picture your father showed me. By the way what
do you mean by the word ‘slut’?”
Child: “It’s someone who has
(hesitating) sex with lots of men.”
- Psych: “How do you know if she has
had sex with lots of men? Have you seen or heard of her sleeping
with lots of men?”
Child: “I don’t know, but
she has three children and she and her husband are divorced.”
- Psych: “ Are they all his children
Child: “I suppose so……How
do I know?”
- Psych: “I believe she and your father
have been together for a few years. Has your father ever said
she was a ‘slut’?”
Child: “No, but how does he know
what she gets up to when he’s at work?”
- Psych: “I believe she works as a social
worker doesn’t she? That would appear to give her very
little time to have sex with lots of men. By the way how did
you hear about the word ‘slut’?”
Child: “I don’t know. I just
- Psych: “From whom?”
Child: “I don’t……
I can’t remember. Why do you keep asking me such stupid
- Psych: “I need to get at the truth,
the real truth why you said your father had touched you in an
inappropriate place. That’s what you said isn’t
Child: “Yes I did and I’m
not changing my mind. You won’t be able to talk me
out of it. Mum said you would try.”
- Psych: “I’ll do nothing of the
kind I want only to get at the truth of what actually happened.
I need to know exactly what your father did do.”
Child: “He wanted me to get into
bed with him. Isn’t that enough? He is a grown up
man and I’m only a little girl”, (a borrowed
- Psych:”Father said you were happy to
get into bed with him."
Child: “That’s not true, he
made me go into bed with him.”
- Psych: “How did he do that. Did he
pull you or carry you into his bed?”
Child: “No, not exactly. He just
said come and get into bed with me.”
- Psych: “For a cuddle, yes?”
Child: (She does not answer).
- Psych: “You are a pretty strong-willed
young girl, very much like your father and mother, they are
both strong adults. You could have said: No I don’t want
to get into bed with you.”
Child: “I could have, yes”.
- Psych: “But you didn’t did you?”
Child: “No I didn’t, but he
would have made me get into his bed!”
- Psych: “How do you know he would have
made you do that? “
Child: “That’s the kind of
man he is he would have forced me, even hit me.”
- Psych: “Has he ever hit you for forced
Child: “No, but he could have…..For
instance he forced me to eat fruit every day and he made
me do my homework before I could watch TV.”
- Psych: “Isn’t that very much
a sign of a good parent to want his child to be healthy in the
food she eats and to do well in school by getting her to do
Child: “He still didn’t have
to do that. Mum never forces me to do anything I don’t
want to do.”
- Psych: “She doesn’t insist you
see your father does she?”
Child: “She says it is up to me
and I don’t want to. How much longer do I have to
sit here with you. I want to go back to my mother. This
is all such a waste of time.”
- Psych: “We are not finished yet. We
have a long time, maybe to get to the real truth about what
your father is supposed to have done when you were in bed with
Child: Not again, I told you already that
he touched me where he shouldn’t have and I told you,
and I told my mum and she must have told you.”
- Psych: “Yes she told me but I want
to know what happened exactly and not generally, but specifically
what your father is supposed to have done while you were in
bed with him.”
Child: “I’ve already told
you he touched me inappropriately.”
- Psych: “I want to know exactly where
and how long for he touched you. Please show me exactly what
Child: (She demonstrates being rubbed
in the outer area of her waist, legs and thighs but nowhere
near her private parts.)
- Psych: “Is that it?”
Child: “He touched me very near
my private parts.”
- Psych: “But you showed me he did not
actually touch them did he?”
Child: “No but he was very close.
He could easily have done so he is that kind of man!”
- Psych: “You keep saying that phrase
‘he is that sort of man’. You say he could but he
didn’t actually force you to go into bed with him; you
said he could have hit you, but then you say he never did hit
you; you say he touched you inappropriately, but he never did
touch your private parts. Do you know that you have caused a
lot of trouble for your father saying what you said about what
he supposed to have done with you in bed.”
Child: “It’s the truth. I
- Psych: “I don’t like to call
anyone a liar, but you really stretched, bent, or otherwise
gave an impression that your father is a sex abuser of his own
daughter whom he loves very much and desperately wants to do
everything for you. You make him sound like a paedophile, a
pervert, who uses his own little girl for his own sexual gratification.”
Child: “I never said he was all
- Psych: “Maybe not in so many words
you didn’t say it, but you and your mother intimated that
your father was a horrible man who took advantage of his own
daughter and who used and abused his own daughter sexually.
Your father could easily have been prosecuted and given a long
prison sentence and lost his profession. Did he deserve that
for what he did when he was only giving you affection and love?”
You virtually threw your father in the rubbish.
(This statement needs to be repeated a number of times with
an increasing emotional aptitude.)
Child: (She sits quietly. She is beginning
to have tears in her eyes…) I didn’t mean to
do all that you say……I didn’t.”
- Psych: “Your father has in all truth
been a good father to you hasn’t he? He doesn’t
deserve the treatment you have given him, such as hanging up
when he calls you.”
Child: (remains silent).
- Psych: “Now it’s time to get
your father in the room so that you can tell him in your own
words how you feel. Your mother won’t be here and once
I see you talking to him, not pretending but really wanting
to speak with him I will go and leave you with him. I know now
for certain that your father never sexually abused you. You
know it also.”
Child: “I don’t want see and
be with him on my own.”
- Psych: “Oh yes you do and you will.”
Child: (When the father enters the room
the child looks in the opposite direction). At this point
a part of the previous dialogue, certainly from 37 onwards
is repeated and emphasised especially number 43). Eventually
the child began to look at the father first at the pictures
he showed her when she was happy in his company with his
family. At this point the psychologist left the room for
several minutes returning only to observe and encourage
for this positive contact to continue. By the end of several
times leaving the room and noting the friendly and verbal
intercourse with the father the psychologist called an end
to the session. After poor or no contact for several years
father and daughter were once again on friendly terms.
There could be one of two endings here. The first and hoped for
ending would be that the daughter continued to have contact with
the father and their relationship grew in time and that the father
was allowed to have a valued relationship with his daughter. The
court upheld his right to have contact and agreed the child should
receive further treatment to undo the harm done to her by the alienating
parent who was ordered not to interfere with the father/daughter
relationship. The alienator would be under threat from the court
if she tried to influence the daughter in any way against the father.
The ending here, however, was not as happy as it all appeared.
The girl in question once again repeated her previous denunciation
of her father and refused further contact with him once she returned
to her mother. She was once more under the influence of the alienator
who had custody and residence of the child. The mother and daughter
made a verbal and written complaint to the Guardian ad Litem that
the psychologist had ‘bullied’ the child into having
contact with her father.
The mother’s solicitor took up the cause on her behalf suggesting
that the evidence of father and daughter’s rehabilitated relationship
be struck off as unacceptable. There was even a veiled threat made
that the psychologist would be reported to his professional body
the BPS for disciplinary action to be taken against him, for behaving
in an unprofessional manner toward the child.
This kind of work is indeed a “poisoned chalice” for
the mediator which should be recognised by the Court when appointing
such mediation sessions between “warring” factions,
especially when parental alienation of a severe nature has occurred.
In the US there is court support for the mediator from the Judge
and the hostility of the alienating parent recognised and curtailed.
This does not happen as yet in the UK and needs to be taken into
account as a matter of urgency if further mediation/treatment is
to take place. Professional bodies should also be supportive to
those carrying out a difficulty task of treating parental alienation.
Only in this way can the position be changed and justice be done
for the alienated parent and the mediator who undertakes such a
case, not merely as a fact finder but as someone who makes a difference
to the often stalemate position of the case, and entrenched position
of the alienator who still continues to alienate from a powerful
Why go to court if there is to be no change? If the “wolf
has not teeth” what can be done? Each solicitor maintains
the “status quo” for their client whether or not they
morally agree. There should be a meeting of all parties with the
Judge, not in a court situation, but in chambers to seek a solution
to the way forward without the protagonists or the child being present.
Being child centred is not the solution when parent alienation has
occurred. Being fair and just with all parties is what will move
the case forward.
Which is the best solution? I know which one I would wish to happen.
This would also be in the BEST INTERESTS OF THE CHILD.